You have many chances to choose whether to be proactive or reactive every day. Reactive people make choices based on impulse. They can explode at any time. Proactive people make choices based on values. They think before they act. They recognize they can’t control everything that happens to them, but they can control what they do about it. Unlike reactive people they are in control.
Besides feeling like victims, reactive people:
- Are easily offended
- Blame others
- Get angry and say things they later regret
- Whine and complain
- Wait for things to happen to them
- Change only when they have to
Proactive people:
- Are not easily offended
- Take responsibility for their choices
- Think before they act
- Bounce back when something bad happens
- Always find a way to make it happen
- Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can't
Try these:
- Be the first to say Hello.
- Do something today that you have wanted to do but never dared. Leave your comfort zone and go for it. Ask someone to lunch or out on a date, raise your hand in class or a meeting, or join a team.
- Walk up and introduce yourself to someone new.
- The next time you feel like you were treated unfairly, don’t blow it off or cry about it, set aside some time to discuss it with that person and then see what you can learn.
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